7 signs that he’s about to waste your time

Men are notorious for giving mixed signals and wasting a woman’s time, but what if the signs were there all along?

As a fellow single millennial woman I think we can all agree that we’ve received the short end of the stick when it comes to dating. The days of men jumping through hoops, being romantic, taking women on actual dates, and building life long relationships are seemingly over. Now-a-days chivalry is on life support and men avoid commitment like the plague. This can be frustrating for someone who is looking for a relationship and not just a hookup or “situationship”. Don’t get discouraged there are some good men out there we just have to weed through the bad ones to get to them. Check out the red flags below and make sure your new potential man isn’t about to waste your time.

1. The “Let’s Chill” Guy

You know the type. He’s handsome, charismatic and sends good morning texts on the regular. When he asks you out on a date you find out that the “date” consist of you going over his place to “watch” movies. Any guy who automatically invites you to his place instead of taking you out only wants sex. Delete his number and move on to the next.

2. The Situationship Guy

He says he doesn’t want a relationship, but then proceeds to treat you like his girlfriend. He also expects you to be exclusive to him, but when the tables are turned he hits you with the “but we not together though” line. Actions speak louder than words and if you’re going through the motions of a relationship then guess what sir? You’re in one! Ladies don’t waste your time with this one. He either doesn’t know what he wants or he’s just leading you on until something he feels is better comes along.

3. The “I’m Busy” Guy

He’s similar to the “let’s chill” guy except he’s a little more subtle and creative. He’ll take you out on dates but best believe heavy alcohol consumption will be involved. Eventually he’ll set up dates during normal date hours, but then his work schedule will become so hectic that he will have to cancel the date and then he’ll say something along the lines of “I’m so sorry I had to cancel, but I really want to see you tonight. Can I come over later?”

4. The Passive Guy

Do you find yourself always initiating dates and conversations with him? He never puts in any effort to see you, however he’s always down to hang out whenever you ask him. Move on sis he’s not that into you. He’s just not man enough to tell you.

5. The Secretive Guy

You’ve been dating for months and you realize that you don’t know that much about him, but he knows everything about you. Whenever you try to learn more about him he gives you a vague response. If he’s not opening up to you then chances are he’s not planning on being around long.

6. The Low-Key Player

During either the dating phase or the beginning of the relationship a guy will bring you around his friends to see how you vibe with them and to get their opinion about you. This means that he genuinely cares about you and wants the input of those closet to him, however if you’ve never met any of his friends it’s probably because you’re not the only girl he’s dating and he doesn’t want to run the risk of his friends calling you some other girls name on mistake.

7. The Hard Times Guy

He’s a nice guy, but his life isn’t together. To be clear i’m not saying he needs to be CEO of a company, but he at least needs to have the bare necessities. Every adult should have these three things: a job, a place of their own, and a car. If he’s lacking any or all of these three things don’t even bother. Relationships are hard work and if a person doesn’t have their own life semi-together there is no way that they can bring anything to the table relationship wise. Worst case scenario you’ll end up having to carry him and the relationship and who wants that stress?

Finding the perfect man can be rough, but now that you have these tips you can easily separate Mr. Right from the Mr. Right Now’s.